Often we are confronted by the tension between what’s “right” and what works. What’s “right” is typically something handed down–what we’re supposed to do, what we think is expected of us. When what’s “right” doesn’t work it makes us unhappy. It’s not what we want to do. It’s not aligned with our values. Choosing what works, is choosing ourselves. When we choose ourselves we choose vulnerability and exposure. We open ourselves to being wrong and to the pain of rebuke. To choose what works we need to be able to realize we have options and create a filter around what is useful to us.